What to keep and what to let go: deciding without regret
You are allowed to not keep everything. A short framework for deciding what earns space in the archive and what genuinely doesn't.
5 min read
The guilt attached to throwing away anything that belonged to someone who has died is enormous, and it leads to loft-fulls of material nobody ever looks at again. Keeping everything is not preservation — it is postponement.
The four questions
For each item ask: does it show a person we can name? Does it show a place the family lived, worked, or returned to? Does it carry handwriting? Is it the only copy? A yes to any of those is a keep.
Blurred landscapes with no people, duplicate holiday snaps of the same view, and commercial postcards with no message on the back are usually safe to release — after they've been scanned, if you're unsure.
Scan the doubtful ones, then decide
Digitising costs a fraction of a loft's worth of storage boxes and removes the finality from the decision. Once the image exists, letting the physical print go feels like tidying rather than loss.
Documents are different
Certificates, deeds, service records, letters and diaries carry information photographs don't. Keep the originals of anything official even after scanning — the paper itself can matter for probate, citizenship, or later research.
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We digitise family collections by hand from a home studio in Cambridgeshire — archival-grade scans, originals returned tracked and insured, and a fixed rate card so you know exactly what you're paying for.
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